Welcome to the Once Upon a Mom blog!
As a child I always knew I wanted to be a wife and mother, in fact I even dreamed that I would have 4 kids by the time I was 32, just like my own mom. I think I was trying to re-create the happy childhood that I had. God, in his infinite wisdom, and with his incredible sense of humor, blessed me with a son at 28 and triplet girls born early but healthy just before my 32nd birthday.
About 30 seconds after having my first child, I began to realize motherhood wasn’t at all what I expected. What I most expected was that I’d be awesome at it (and my baby would be easy and I would love every minute of it and, well, you get the idea). But I still held on to the hope that I was just doing it wrong. I thought if I read the right books and gritted my teeth and put the work in, I could be a perfect mother, with the perfect child. I was living out my fairy tale and I was determined to manifest my happy ending!
After the birth of my triplets, I realized perfection was unattainable. God granted me the gift of 4 healthy children in just 3 1/2 years along with the gift of complete chaos and overwhelm. With so many young children, little money, and not enough time in the day, I knew I couldn’t carry on chasing perfection. I had no choice but to let go of my grip on the never ending cliff to perfection and let myself tumble into the holy mess that was my day to day. What I found, back in reality, was the soft cushion of mom friends who had given up perfection long ago, or didn’t even chase it. Hearing the struggles and imperfections of these women did wonders for me. They weren’t perfect. They were just like me, trying their best, failing, and trying again.
Ever since this realization, I feel called to share my struggles, my imperfections, and any lessons I learn along the way, with you. So that you know you aren’t alone either.
That’s why I write this blog.
But in case you want to know more, here are some facts about me: I have a super-crazy-amazing husband, Bill. We’ve been married to for 16 years, but we’ve been together since we were 16 and 17 respectively. We have four beautiful and healthy children, Will, Eva, Vivian, and Zoe. I work part time as a freelance writer and social media VA, and I spend the other part getting kids off the bus, breaking up fights, doing laundry, making meals, and cleaning up! I keep buying cats because my kids are getting too big to snuggle. I’m 2 cats in and unfortunately neither one is very affectionate. I have a love/hate relationship with running, which I do slowly and inconsistently. Mostly I just like hanging out with my family and friends and eating food that other people prepare for me and that I don’t have to clean up later.