Moms, We Can Do All The Things! But Should We?

I am mom; hear me roar! I can work or stay home, or both! I can kick butt in the office, be available whenever needed, move up in my field and still coach my kids’ soccer team. I can stay home, teach my kids their ABC’s, take them on educational outings every day, volunteer for the preschool and the moms club and still keep an immaculate house and cook organic meals every night! I mean, I can’t actually do all these things and I know because I’ve tried. Maybe you’re doing all the things too, but I’m guessing that you are feeling overwhelmed and down right scattered.

My list of things I’d like to do as a mom include, but are not limited to:, keep a clean and organized house, volunteer at my kids’ school and at my church, maintain a vegetable garden, clip coupons, meal plan, cook from scratch every night, re-do my entire house to like Joanna Gaines’ farmhouse, work part time while my kids are in school and after they go to bed, build my resume and client list, exercise regularly, make time for myself to relax, read the 18 parenting books on my night stand, spend one on one time with each of my four children, drive each one to their different activities, help them with their homework, but not too much so they can learn to be independent and the list goes on and on.

Thing is, I can do all these, but if I’m honest with myself, I’m not doing any of them well.

There’s been more than a few nights when my kids are eating cereal for dinner because I’m preparing to teach a class to other people’s children. There’s been a lot of Saturdays that I’ve had to ignore my kids’ countless requests for attention because I was clipping coupons, planning  a week’s worth of meals cooked from scratch, shopping for groceries for said healthy meals and prepping food all day. There’s been tons of evenings when I’ve snapped at my kids because they weren’t tying their shoes fast enough to get to one of their many after school activities. There have been late nights when I’ve stayed up way past my bedtime to meet a work deadline because the daytime hours were spent trying to get my house into a state of complete order and cleanliness.

This is not the mom I want to be anymore. The one who does everything, but does it all hurriedly and not very well. The kind of mom with a to-do list an arm long and never gets to cross all the items off. The kind of mom who feels completely overwhelmed with unrealistic and unattainable expectations put upon herself.

I know I can do all the things. But I just don’t want to anymore. So I’m not gonna.

I’m going to take my extremely long list of things I “should” be doing as a mom and I’m going to start crossing stuff off. Like a lot of stuff. I’m going to take that bar that I’ve set ridiculously high and I’m going to lower it…by a lot.

Because yes, I am a mom and moms are awesome and we can do all the things. But the best thing I can do right now is choose to do less.

Who’s with me?




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Comments

  1. BAILEY | simply mom bailey
    May 15, 2017 - 11:32 am

    I’m trying so hard to do less. But I’m not sure what to cut back on. Instead I’m trying to be more organized about what I need and have to do and making more lists, and schedules. It’s helping me feel less overwhelmed and cut out the things I really don’t HAVE TO DO.

    • I’m right there with you Bailey! I’ve recognized that I need to do less, now I just feel like I need to figure out what to cut!

  2. I love this. I think a lot of times us moms think we have to do everything to meet up to the ‘mom’ standard. But we need to realize we can do just a few things an still be great.

  3. Corey | The Nostalgia Diaries
    May 15, 2017 - 4:41 pm

    I’m totally with you!! Here’s to doing less better 🙂

  4. Good for you! I feel ya 110 percent. I feel like when we try to master it all we end up a master of nothing at all. I am often reminded of this when my three year old son tells me to come sit and snuggle him or play as I am running around like a crazy person trying to get the dishes done and the laundry done and all the list of 100 other things I need to get done done….I have to step back and tell myself those things will still be there…there will probably be more but they will still be there. Sometimes it ok for the kids not to do every activity and sometimes it’s ok for us to just relax and enjoy the moments before the moments pass is by.

    • Love this Amber! And I love that you are putting off the to do list for the things that really matter, snuggling and being present with your child!

  5. I love this. I think too often mothers try taking on way too much than they should.I know I do

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