I’m Tired of People Telling Me I Look Tired

Almost every week, a mom at karate tells me, “Oh wow, you look tired. Rough week?” Ugh! But don’t judge her-she’s actually a very nice person except for this one harsh, but incredibly accurate comment she keeps throwing at me.

I am tired. It’s Friday evening. I drove ½ hour to get here and have been sitting on this hard bench for 2 hours waiting for my kids to be done with their classes. This is how I end every week. After cleaning, making lunches, working, volunteering, loads and loads of laundry, more cleaning, cooking dinner, refereeing sibling squabbles, helping with homework, taking kids to and from activities, it all ends here. It’s the last thing I have to get through before the weekend -sitting here on this bench, trying to solve this damn sudoku puzzle, waiting for karate to be over so we can finally go home and enjoy Friday evening, when the tornado of busy finally dissipates.

This is a busy season of life and and I am worn out. I’m tired because I’m doing all these things but I’m not tired of doing them. I’m tired of driving to gymnastics, and dance, and karate, but I love watching my kiddos master a new skill. I’m tired of doing laundry, but I love their cute little clothes. I’m tired of rescheduling work, but I love that I get to be the one person they want more than anyone in the world when they are sick.

Normally when I hear, “You look tired,” I feel like that’s code for someone telling me “You look old,” or “Yoga pants again, Anne?” This Friday I hope to take it as a compliment. This time I want to hear it as, “That was some expert level parenting this week Anne!”

I am ready to drop and apparently, it shows. But I hope that people can see I’m the kind of exhausted you feel after you are given a nearly impossible task with no instructions, you worked really hard and are proud of a job well done.




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Comments

  1. I am right there with you! What I want to know is why do they feel it’s appropriate? I look tired? Offer me a water or complement something to make me feel better but don’t say Gosh you looked tired.

    • Hahaha! So true Bobbi! I may look tired, but I don’t really want to hear about it!

  2. What a positive way to look at it! I feel like every mom gets told they look tired at some point, and we all take it personal, but forget to look at how much we’re doing for our kids! Really great post!

  3. Momming aint easy! I feel like I’m always saying how tired I am- this is such a great way to look at it/ thank you!!

  4. Looking tired to me says, “Wow, you had a wild few days.” And I always want to hear the wild stories that come along with the tired look. Stories like, “The cat peed in my suitcase and I’ve been up all night washing my clothes,” or my favorite, “My son threw up on my curtains because he’s allergic to BEETS! I spent all night treating my poor curtains and tending to pink/red vomit.”

  5. How come all the people who’ve left comments look just like you? Are you an identical triplet or something?

  6. You’re tired because you ARE doing expert-level parenting. What are those slackers doing? 😉

  7. I totally feel you. People tell me that all time, and all I can think is “yup, I have an 11 month old who hates sleep.” You’re tired for all the right reasons, that’s all that’s important.

  8. Meredith Spidel
    March 23, 2017 - 11:48 am

    Love this, Anne! The perfect perspective 🙂

  9. Breyona Sharpnack
    March 24, 2017 - 10:09 pm

    I love this post! I just had a baby a few weeks ago and even though the baby doesn’t keep me up at night and I actually get to sleep a little, my best friend came over who is childless and first thing she said when I opened the door was “wow you look tired”…..I just stood there in silence and said well yeah I do have 5 kids.

    • Congratulations on your 5th baby Breyona! Sounds like you have 5 really great reasons to be tired! I’m so glad you liked the post!

  10. I think you look good in the picture! Not especially tired, and very young.

    • Thanks Leslie! I do like this picture of me. I’m putting my best face forward!

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